I remember a conversation a bit over a year ago that ended with me saying, "well, if it wasn't for derby, I don't really think we would be 'friends'." and with this, the person burst out into tears. I remember thinking to myself: "What is this? You are shit talking behind my back.... I should be the one crying."
I still wonder.
We aren't going to like everyone we meet. Or, they might not like you. That's all ok. Some people set up their world with everything around them telling them the things they want to hear. I try setting up my world with the things I NEED to hear. If you are going to talk shit about people, you don't belong in my world. I don't want to hear it. I'll listen. But don't expect me to agree with you. In fact, it's that point that has had me in the past speaking out against it, because I think that people assume that if you say nothing and just nod, you are agreeing with what has been said. Which isn't always true, you may believe the opposite, you may even be outraged with what the person said, but if you say nothing, the person talking, can pretty much assume anything they want.
I would rather have friends that stood up for me in the moment, rather than came to be later with the gossip and still tried to be chummy with both of us. If you choose to do that, please exit from my life. No hurt feelings here.
Life is too short to wonder who has your back.
